Low Self Esteem
Having a low opinion of yourself is not modesty – it is self destruction.
Low self-esteem is actually a thinking disorder in which an individual views (thinks of) himself as inadequate, unacceptable, unworthy, unlovable, and/or incompetent – thinking that permeates every aspect of a person’s life.
Once thinking is formed, emotions and feelings follow that also irrational and distorted, causing the person to have difficulty knowing who and when to trust, inciting fear and trepidation in new situations in which a person may not know what is expected of him/her.
Low self-esteem ALWAYS forms in childhood when the individual is developing an initial view of how he or she, as a person, fits into the world. This process begins at birth and may continue to be cemented up to the age 8 or 10.
What are signs of having a low self-esteem?
- social withdrawal
- sensitivity to criticism
- excessive pre-occupation with personal problems
- physical symptoms like head aches, fatigue and insomnia (sleep disorders)
What causes a low self-esteem?
- being subject to abuse – sexual, emotional or physical, and the loss of control associated with this
- having your physical and emotional needs neglected in childhood
- failing to meet the expectations of your parents
- feeling like the ‘odd one out’ at school
- coming from a community which often experiences prejudice, such as being an asylum seeker, or being poor but living in a wealthy neighbourhood
- peer pressure to conform to social norms which you don’t agree with
- bullying or excessive pressures at work
- physical ill-health – its impact on your quality of life and activities you can do
- facing redundancy or being unemployed
- social isolation and loneliness.