Rebuilding trust when it’s been broken is not dependent only on the person who has broken it, or how many times they can prove they are honest.
It depends on the person who has decided not to trust anymore.
Though they may be totally justified in their decision not to trust, as long as they choose not to, the relationship has no hope of survival and should be ended.
If or when they decide to trust again, there is hope reborn. – Doe Zantamata
Trust rests on three pillars – Benevolence, integrity, and competence. Knowing this helps us to understand how trust is built and how to regain it when it is lost. The three attributes ensuring trustworthiness require us to look out for one another, to do the right thing, and to do what we are meant to do.
Benevolence and integrity have to do with a person’s morality ( to be ethical, noble, righteous, and virtuous), relating to principles of right and wrong in behavior.
How to regain trust once it is lost?
- Take responsibility and be honest about your mistake. Man up.
- Share the detail of your wrongdoing.
- Release your anger – whether you are the culprit or the partner.
- Reflect on the hurt and harm you caused.
- Make a heartfelt apology to your partner.
- Make a commitment to each other to put this behind you.
- Forgiveness is crucial for healing.
- Do not use the incident as a weapon in the future
- Break down the walls between the both of you and become vulnerable. Do away with egos.
- Be patient – trust takes time to be established in the first place. Regaining trust that was lost will take time and it is dependent not only on the promises but on actions.
Power of positivity lists ten things you can do that can help to build trust again:
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