What are the effects of domestic violence?
A woman who experiences domestic violence in her home walks on eggs most of the time – she never knows when the next attack will come. She lives in constant fear. She might become more isolated from family and friends – some are disowned because of their choice of a partner. It increases her dependence on the abuser to sustain her (and her children), and it becomes more difficult to leave. As time passes, it wears down her self-esteem, and she feels responsible for what happens to her.
Most women feel too ashamed to seek help. Though you might think she is too weak and submissive to endure the abuse, these women are strong, courageous and resourceful. It takes huge strength to live with an abusive partner.
Women often cannot insist on fidelity, demand condom use, or refuse sex to their partner, even when they suspect or know he has an STD. And they often lack the economic power to remove themselves from relationships that carry significant risks of HIV infection. Fear of getting beaten or thrown out, women are unlikely to ask their boyfriends to wear a condom or question them about fidelity.
Does domestic violence affect children?
It has a devastating effect on the physical and emotional impact of victims and affects those around you. Children learn how to interact from a young age, and a child exposed to domestic violence can grow up to be a violent, abusive adult. Abuse occurs in 46% of children in domestic violence homes.
https://www.mobieg.co.za/abuse/child-abuse/
In which type of family or relationship does gender-based violence occur?
- Persons of any class, culture, religion, sexual orientation, marital status, age, and sex can be victims or perpetrators of Gender-based violence.
- Alcohol use, drug use, and stress do not cause gender-based violence; they may go along with gender-based violence, but they do not cause violence.
- Generally, Gender-based violence happens when an abuser has learned and chooses to abuse.
- Although mental illness is rarely the cause of GBV, people use it often as an excuse.
- Note: Men are the victims of gender-based violence in 40% of cases.
There are a variety of ways that gender-based violence may put victims at risk of contracting HIV/AIDS:How Gender-based Violence Puts Victims at Risk of Contracting HIV
There is no crime termed “domestic violence”. Therefore, measuring the extent of domestic violence requires paying attention to different sorts of familial and intimate relationships and various types of abuse. Police data does not offer a comprehensive guide to this terrain. Cases of domestic violence are likely to be recorded as cases of assault. Given domestic violence’s serious nature, assault victims must be encouraged to report incidents to the police. The police do not release the details about the number of assaults that involve intimate partners. The law requires police to keep a register of domestic violence cases. They must also have victim-friendly rooms available. Despite these requirements, regular compliance is deficient. 1. All victims should be treated with respect and dignity and interviewed by a trained police officer in a victim-sensitive manner. 2. Police and social workers should assist victims in a victim-friendly or alternative room, where a statement will be taken in private, providing victim support services. 3. The healthcare professional will refer/take victims for medical examination to obtain medical evidence and complete a medical report, including checking the victim’s health. 4. Family Violence Child Protection and Sexual Offences Investigation Unit or a detective with relevant training should conduct the investigation. 5. Victims of family violence, sexual assault and child abuse (and their families) should be referred to victim support services available within the precinct for legal, medical, social and psychological help. 6. Victims should be proactively and continuously given feedback on the progress of their cases.The SAPS six-point plan to assist victims of gender-based violence
International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women
25 November
Gender-based violence & Human rights in South Africa
It was not until the introduction of the Bill of Rights that all women in this country received formal recognition as equal citizens. Under their fathers’ or husbands’ social and even legal control, South African women were second-class citizens for many years. South Africa’s common law deprived white women of guardianship and various economic rights. Black women were doubly disadvantaged as a result of their race and their gender. For instance, customary law gives black women the status of minors and excludes them from rights regarding children and property. Our Constitution and laws give women many rights. Most importantly, the Bill of Rights gives all women equal rights. In short, the Equality Clause says no person may be discriminated against on several grounds, including sex and gender. Equality between men and women is one of the most important aims of the Constitution. Women are protected by the full range of rights guaranteed in the new Constitution – the rights to life, dignity, privacy and others. However, they receive specific protection in section 9, entitled “Equality”. It says: “(3) The state may not unfairly discriminate directly or indirectly against anyone on one or more grounds, including race, gender, sex, pregnancy, marital status, ethnic or social origin, colour, sexual orientation, age, disability, religion, conscience, belief, culture, language and birth.” The prohibition of discrimination on gender, sex, pregnancy and marital status is to protect women. The grounds “sex”, a biological feature, and “gender”, a social artefact, are both included – perhaps unnecessarily. Nationally: What are the 16 days of activism? It is a worldwide campaign to oppose violence against women and children. It aims to raise awareness of the negative impact that violence and abuse have on women and children and permanently rid society of abuse. When does the campaign take place? The 16 Days of Activism Campaign is held annually from 25 November to 10 December. However, the campaign’s success rests on our daily individual and collective actions to safeguard our society against this cycle of abuse.
Do you know that Parliament has passed laws to protect the rights of individuals against abuse? The Domestic Violence Act of 1998 The Promotion of Equity and Prevention of Unfair Discrimination Act of 2000 The Criminal Law (Sexual Offences and Related Matters Act) Amendment Act of 2007 The primary purpose of the Act is to provide the highest form of protection from domestic violence. The law places responsibility on state organs and the police to ensure that survivors of domestic violence can apply for protection orders to prevent abusers from entering a mutual home or the survivors’ home or workplace. The order can also allow for the seizure of weapons. The DVA has an expansive definition of domestic violence that includes physical, sexual, emotional, verbal, psychological and economic abuse and intimidation, harassment, stalking and controlling behaviours. It also recognises a range of familiar and domestic relationships, including same-sex relationships. Gaps and Challenges: Although gender-based violence requires a multi-disciplinary approach, the Act does not place obligations on the Department of Social Development to provide care and support services and neither the Department of Health nor the National prosecution authority.The Domestic Violence Act No 116 of 1998.³
Women’s right to live free from violence is upheld by international agreements such as the Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination against Women (CEDAW), primarily through General Recommendations 12 and 19 of the 1993 UN Declaration on the Elimination of Violence against Women. UN Women partners with Governments, UN agencies, civil society organisations, and other institutions to advocate ending violence, increase awareness of the causes and consequences of violence, and build partners’ capacity to prevent and respond to violence. They also promote the need for changing the norms and behaviour of men and boys and advocate for gender equality and women’s rights. UN Women supports expanding access to quality multi-sectoral responses for survivors covering safety, shelter, health, justice and other essential services.Internationally:
Get help
What can you do to be safe?
· If you feel you are in danger from your abuser at any time, you can call 10111 or your local police.
· If you are in danger when the police come, they can protect you.
· They can help you and your children leave your home safely.
· They can arrest your abuser when they have enough proof that you have been abused.
· They can arrest your abuser if a personal protection order (PPO) has been violated.
· When the police come, tell them everything the abuser did that made you call.
· If you have been abused, tell the police where. Tell the officer how many times it happened. Show them any marks left on your body. Scars may take time to show up. If you see a wound after the police go, call the police to take pictures of the marks. The prosecutor may use it in court.
· If your abuser has broken any property, show the police.
· The police can give you information on domestic violence programs and shelters.
· The police must make a report saying what happened to you. Police reports can be used in court if your abuser is charged with a crime.
· Get the officers’ names, badge numbers, and case numbers if you need a report copy.
You can use a police report to help you get a Personal Protection Order
https://www.mobieg.co.za/abuse/protection-order/
Get support from friends and family.
Tell your supportive family, friends and co-workers what has happened.
Find a safe place
It is not fair. You should not have to leave your home because of what your abuser has done. But sometimes, it is the only way you will be safe. Some shelters can help you move to a different city or province.
https://www.mobieg.co.za/abuse/a-safety-plan-to-escape-from-abuse/
Get medical help
If you have been hurt, go to the hospital or your doctor. They are there to give you support. In addition, you may ask medical staff to call one for you.
Medical records can be crucial in court cases. They can also help you get a Personal Protection Order. Give all the information about your injuries and who hurt you that you feel safe to give.
HOW TO HELP SOMEONE IN A DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SITUATION:
If someone discloses a gender-based violence incident to you: When speaking to a young person about their experience of abuse, these are the six things that they want to hear from you: 1. I believe you. 2. I am glad you have told me this – you are courageous to have come forward. 3. I am sorry this has happened to you. 4. You are not alone in having experienced abuse – it can happen to lots of people. 5. It is not your fault. 6. Some people can help. The person does not expect you to promise confidentiality (nor should you). If you are a family member, friend, teacher or youth worker, it is not your job to counsel the person. Your role is to listen to them and then suggest action or make appropriate referrals. Always consult with the person about what they think is the best way to help them and offer them information about local support agencies or helplines with expert knowledge of gender-based violence. To assist you and the person in deciding the best course of action, it is helpful to consider the following:
· Remind them that this is not their fault – no one deserves abuse.
· BELIEVE them! You might be the first to listen or to validate their experience.
· Explain that you are afraid for their safety and the safety of their children.
· Be patient! Don’t expect them to have all the answers immediately.
· Help them relocate resources in a place of safety.
· REMEMBER: they are taking a considerable risk by talking about the abuse.
EMERGENCY NUMBERS IN SOUTH AFRICA
You can also report it to the police or a nearby support group or organisation. By speaking out, you may save a life.
- Gender-based violence helpline: 0800 150 150
- Gender-based violence command centre: *120*7867#
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- SAPS Emergency number: 10111
- Stop Gender Violence helpline: 0800-150-150
- POWA Helpline: 083 765 1235
- FAMSA National office: (011) 975-7106/7
- Childline 27/7 helpline: 080 005 5555
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If you think you might be in a violent relationship or you witness domestic violence at home – you can do a self-test quiz:
Resources:
² https://www.springtideresources.org/resource/emotional-abuse-women-male-partners-facts
³ http://www.justice.gov.za/legislation/acts/1998-116.pdf